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3 Tips For Choosing A Wedding Videographer plus millennial bloggers wedding video - the confused millennial

Happy March!!

Phew! It feels like I blinked and February is overrr!

February was a rough month for me. Concrete work on the facade of my building started, which has left all the windows and doors closed! Not only closed, the blinds were drawn, so I basically feel like I am in a cave all day. Plus the constant drilling on my head doesn’t help. The noise canceling headphones I bought can’t even drown out the noise anymore ? .

E and I spent about two weeks checking out every viable apartment option and finally found our dream place! We are really excited (and nervous) to be moving! We’ve always lived in 100% furnished places (like we don’t even own sheets or towels!) and this place has literally nothing. To say I am a little overwhelmed RN is an understatement!

I know if I take deep breaths everything will slowly fall into place, but my normally anxious self is needing a little extra self-care time right now.

Which leads me to something super fun I am excited to share with y’all! We finallyyyy got our wedding video!!

When hiring a videographer I had a really specific vision in mind. Since many of you know, not one person from my family attended our wedding, I really wanted our wedding video to be about our love story, not just the wedding day and celebrating with friends and family. I can’t thank our videographers enough for taking the time to really listen to what we wanted, spending a little extra time to get it just right, and giving us the most special gift from our wedding.

No joke – E and I have felt very disconnected from our wedding – we didn’t cry during the ceremony or anything, TBH, in many ways, it felt just like any other day… even looking at the photos, we felt like it was just another photo shoot — but we both were crying when we watched this and finally felt that magical feeling we had been missing out on.

We were on the fence about hiring a videographer (they are expensive and how often do you really think you will watch the video?) but ultimately we decided too and couldn’t be happier.

Here are a few tips for choosing a videographer:

Watch a ton of wedding videos. Figure out what it is you like or dislike about them. We knew we really did not want a wedding video that felt like a bunch of moving pictures (you know the ones that show clips of the shoes, the cake, extra, almost like a moving picture book) – but we loved the videos that told a story.

Make a list of the things you do and do not like. Then communicate that to potential videographers you are interviewing. Ask them about their style, comfort level with what you are going for (if it’s different than what they typically do), and make sure you feel comfortable with them.

Be flexible in your vision. I REALLY wanted aerial drone footage of our wedding day and our videographers warned that if it’s too windy they wouldn’t be able to get it… and sure enough it was too windy! I was super disappointed but the video came out beyond amazing and don’t even care anymore. So trust the professionals will still do it justice!

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  • Summer @ Coffee With Summer
    March 1, 2017 at 9:39 am

    Being flexible in your vision is the #1 thing people need to do in this, especially if you have no professional experience in the videography area. I wish more people would realize this! The professional knows what they’re doing!

    • Rachel Ritlop
      March 1, 2017 at 2:39 pm

      Exactly! I was super bummed about the drone footage, but they used this super cool effect that it almost feels like it at times anyway so I am beyond happy with how it turned out!!

  • [email protected] of a NuttyHiker
    March 1, 2017 at 10:00 am

    Another tip is to verify that they have a business license and insurance! So many don’t (just like many photographers that are popping up everywhere). I only say this because I am a pro photog and see this so often! So many people just trying to make an extra buck and then give the rest of us bad names lol. Always research and ask for proof of business liability insurance.

    • Rachel Ritlop
      March 1, 2017 at 2:39 pm

      YAS! totally agree! didn’t even think of that since it was an obvious requirement from our venue!

  • Abbey Phipps
    March 1, 2017 at 10:18 am

    This is really smart! My husband is a professional videography, and it’s definitely important for people to trust his vision! He knows what he’s doing! 🙂

    • Rachel Ritlop
      March 1, 2017 at 2:39 pm

      Haha i totally believe you!

  • CouponDivaAndi
    March 1, 2017 at 10:46 am

    SO important that you get a good one!

    • Rachel Ritlop
      March 1, 2017 at 2:39 pm

      Totally agree!

  • Kylie FitzGerald
    March 1, 2017 at 11:47 am

    The video was wonderfully done and will make for wonderful memories of the day. Your wedding was beautiful and looked so fun and your dress was gorgeous! You guys are a beautiful couple 🙂

    Kylie <3

    • Rachel Ritlop
      March 1, 2017 at 2:39 pm

      Awe thank you so much!

  • sofieyah l
    March 1, 2017 at 1:06 pm

    Omg, this is some good tips to look out for when I have my own wedding <3

  • Amanda | Maple Alps
    March 1, 2017 at 1:21 pm

    We really wanted a videographer for our wedding, but it didn’t work out. We are super happy with our photos though, so our disappointment was forgotten. Great post!

  • Anna Hubbard
    March 1, 2017 at 2:07 pm

    Omg I can’t wait to come back and watch this video! I definitely want a videographer for my future wedding!
    -Anna |

    • Rachel Ritlop
      March 1, 2017 at 2:39 pm

      Thanks Anna!!

  • Neely
    March 1, 2017 at 4:24 pm

    We loved our videographer. So glad we had one. Love your tips!

  • Chelsie Carr
    March 1, 2017 at 4:57 pm

    Your video made me cry. That is my biggest regret from my wedding – that we didn’t do a video. Honestly, when we got married, wedding videos weren’t AS big of a deal, so it wasn’t really on my radar, but now I wish we had one. Maybe I’ll ask someone to do one for our 5 year anniversary next year!

    • Rachel Ritlop
      March 3, 2017 at 4:07 pm

      Awe thank you <3 You guys could always do one about your relationship up to this point (like for when you are pregnant for your kids to see someday or two remind you guys of your love when times get tough with kids and extra priorities)

  • Tilley
    March 1, 2017 at 5:14 pm

    Um excuse me while I wipe away all my tears! So freaking cute. Videography is def worth every penny!

  • Jenny
    March 1, 2017 at 6:38 pm

    Love your wedding video! It was so sweet. I started tearing up. I can’t wait to get mine back.

    • Rachel Ritlop
      March 3, 2017 at 4:06 pm

      Thank you!!! It’s definitely so fun to watch it back!!

  • Miss ALK
    March 1, 2017 at 7:05 pm

    I just went back and read the wedding blog post that you linked- so sweet girl! <3 <3 How precious to finally have your video. And good luck with the move- eeek! I'm moving next month too and it is nerve racking.

    xoxo A

    • Rachel Ritlop
      March 3, 2017 at 4:06 pm

      Awe thank you!!! Good luck with your move!! you are going to love it!!

  • Leeza Smith
    March 1, 2017 at 7:10 pm

    omg obsessed with your wedding video! so beautiful. Congrats ! You got the perfect videographer

  • Alix Maza
    March 1, 2017 at 7:39 pm

    Your video is AMAZING! Love it.

    Alix |

  • Megan
    March 1, 2017 at 7:52 pm

    Aw you guys have the sweetest story. I love how cute and awkward it must have been at the start. It’s really nice to hear a story that sounds so real rather than the polished, super breezy rom-coms I love/hate to watch.
    Your wedding vid is also amazing! <3

    • Rachel Ritlop
      March 3, 2017 at 4:05 pm

      haha thank you!! yeah we definitely laugh at how awkward it all was but also so appropriate we as a couple! haha

  • Katie
    March 1, 2017 at 9:44 pm

    This might sound weird, but it’s SO refreshing to hear from another bride that they felt a bit disconnected to their wedding. When my husband and I got to our hotel room the night of our wedding, we were talking about the day and how we thought it went. We both turned to each other and said: “Yeah, it was great…but it kind of felt like any other day.” So many people rave about their wedding days and how it was the ~*best day ever*~ but I feel like my husband and I have greater days to come. And I mean that in the best way possible. Our wedding was one of the best days ever (keyword: one, as in more to come)!
    Your video is adorable! I loved hearing how you and your husband met! 🙂 I really love your dress and the bouquets. All the little details are beautiful!
    Katie | Millennial on the Move

    • Rachel Ritlop
      March 3, 2017 at 3:56 pm

      lol no I totally get it!! and happy someone else can relate!

  • Chloé Adams
    March 1, 2017 at 11:16 pm

    You’re moving situation sounds stressful ? Good luck girl!

    • Rachel Ritlop
      March 3, 2017 at 3:55 pm

      Ahhh thank you!! *deep breaths* haha

  • Nicole Booz
    March 2, 2017 at 12:22 am

    Your video turned out so great!! I love that you guys told your story – it’s so obvious how much you love each other. I hope the move goes well, too. Don’t stress, everything is going to be a-ok ♥️

    • Rachel Ritlop
      March 3, 2017 at 3:55 pm

      Thank you!!! it means so much <3 <3

  • Rachel Golden
    March 2, 2017 at 2:17 am

    Your video is so stunning!! I freakin love how you two met. 🙂 I didn’t even know wedding videos were a thing, but I absolutely love it! Also, moving is so scary, but SO exciting at the same time. You’ll have to update us and let us know how everything goes!

    • Rachel Ritlop
      March 3, 2017 at 3:55 pm

      Awe thank you!! haha – definitely ready for the move! less than two weeks!

  • Ashley Mason
    March 2, 2017 at 8:41 am

    Such a beautiful video! You two are adorable!

  • Leah
    March 2, 2017 at 11:03 am

    What a gorgeous video. I won’t lie, my fiance and I were on the fence about a videographer, but this has just about changed my mind. I think it’s awesome how your videographer made your video “uniquely you” and made it something so special for you both to go back and watch often. Thank you for sharing!

    • Rachel Ritlop
      March 3, 2017 at 3:55 pm

      Awe thank you!! Yeah, we really wanted something that we could look on that would tell our love story to that point – not just about the wedding day and I gave all my ideas to the videographers and they totally nailed it! I would say get super clear on what it is you want to look back on and what would make it special to you and communicate that!

  • Kristin Cook
    March 2, 2017 at 12:57 pm

    My hubby and I really had a rough experience with photography for our wedding and we also did not get a video. I wish i could go back and change both of those things. I am glad you were able to have your moment captured both on camera and video.

    • Rachel Ritlop
      March 3, 2017 at 3:54 pm

      Thank you! It was definitely nice to have since it focused on our relationship to that point, not just the day which i love!

  • mckenna bleu
    March 2, 2017 at 1:32 pm

    Your wedding video is absolutely beautiful!

  • Aarika Chilson
    March 2, 2017 at 1:48 pm

    Thanks for the tips! I wish that my hubby and I had hired a videographer! =) We had family and friends take random videos, which I am thankful for, but nothing like the beautiful quality from a professional videographer. I love your video!

  • Heather Gullett Denniston
    March 2, 2017 at 2:06 pm

    OMG, things are so different now when it comes to videographer. Gone are the huge shoulder cameras and weeks and weeks of waiting while they edited. These are so awesome

    • Rachel Ritlop
      March 3, 2017 at 3:53 pm

      Oh ours took four months to edit! But it was so worth the wait!

  • Kristine Circenis
    March 2, 2017 at 2:23 pm

    Beautiful is an understatement. I love the magic that your videographer captured in this video 🙂

    • Rachel Ritlop
      March 3, 2017 at 3:52 pm

      Hehe thank you!! It definitely feels like our entire relationship was captured, not just the day!

  • hal
    March 2, 2017 at 3:21 pm

    Great advice – it’s so important that you have the perfect memories!

    • Rachel Ritlop
      March 3, 2017 at 3:52 pm

      Agreed! Its great to look back on

  • Erica
    March 2, 2017 at 4:06 pm

    I’m sitting here in a Starbucks crying. Thanks a lot. hahahahahaha

    • Rachel Ritlop
      March 3, 2017 at 3:52 pm

      Haha stoppp!! Love you <3 <3 <3

  • Bea Alvarado
    March 2, 2017 at 4:09 pm

    These are great tips! I’m helping plan a wedding and these tips will come in handy! xo

    • Rachel Ritlop
      March 3, 2017 at 3:52 pm

      Enjoy the planning process!

  • Elly Leavitt
    March 2, 2017 at 5:09 pm

    omg. I don’t even know you guys in person and I’m sitting here legit crying at your wedding video lol you guys are SO CUTE!!! love this so much, thanks for sharing babe xxx

    • Rachel Ritlop
      March 3, 2017 at 3:51 pm

      Awe!!! haha!!! Thank you!!

  • Taylor Smith
    March 3, 2017 at 12:25 am

    You were the most beautiful bride omg.

  • Greta Hollar
    March 3, 2017 at 1:04 am

    I wish I had a videographer at my wedding. Your video is BEAUTIFUL!

    Greta |

  • Sharon Glascoe
    March 3, 2017 at 6:43 am

    So many people nix the wedding video because it seems that photos will be enough. No no no. A wedding video does a much better job of providing memories. We loved ours and highly recommend that everyone get a videographer. Love these tips!

    • Rachel Ritlop
      March 3, 2017 at 3:51 pm

      IT really does! I was so on the fence about it (because how much will you really watch it?) but it was SO worth it!

  • Oksana |
    March 3, 2017 at 8:49 am

    I’m going to be honest…after being married for just under 5 years, I’ve got no clue where our wedding video is…LOL As important as these things may seem (especially to the sentimental type) at the time of the wedding, with time you learn that it’s the marriage that counts – not the wedding. Of course, I would love to show our video to our littles one day, so there is that aspect of it too.

    • Rachel Ritlop
      March 3, 2017 at 3:51 pm

      uhh yeah i agree… which is why we did our wedding video the way we did it.

  • stephanieabills
    March 3, 2017 at 4:37 pm

    The video came out absolutely stunning!

    the tips you shared here are awesome. Once it is my turn to get married, I will definitely refer back to this for guidance!

  • Tiffani Grosser
    March 4, 2017 at 5:12 pm

    Omg that video totally gives me chills! My BFF is eloping this June and I’ve been helping her plan just about everything, and one of the first things we booked was the videographer! There is just something special about having it all on camera!

    • Rachel Ritlop
      March 8, 2017 at 1:45 pm

      Awe thank you!! Agreed! Where is she eloping to??

  • Cameron
    March 5, 2017 at 6:32 pm

    Great tips! I’m wedding planning myself, but I’m still on the fence about a videographer. If I decide to go with one, I’ll be sure to keep these tips in mind!


    • Rachel Ritlop
      March 8, 2017 at 1:46 pm

      Have so much fun planning! where are you in the process?

      • Cameron
        March 8, 2017 at 1:59 pm

        We are having a bit of a long engagement haha. We been engaged for just over a year already but finally settled on a date in Sept of 2018, and locked down a venue and caterer. We have an idea of photographer and band, but haven’t booked either quite yet. We are working on getting “engagement” photos done soon, and dress shopping. So many things left it seems, but we have time so it’s not too bad 🙂

        • Rachel Ritlop
          March 9, 2017 at 12:13 pm

          Lol i love it! We had a 2 year engagement (I actually wrote this post on it –> I loved it personally! The only thing I got a little complacent in, was towards the end, all the little things (because I kept feeling like I had so much time) — it ended up being a scramble for small decor items and even ordering our invites (oops) haha

          • Cameron
            March 9, 2017 at 1:15 pm

            I actually read your post and loved it haha 🙂 especially your point about the guest list! So many “friends” were so excited to ask about wedding plans and hang out, but have since not stayed in touch! And I know the little things are going to drive me crazy haha! I’m dreading ordering invites, they are so expensive!

          • Rachel Ritlop
            March 10, 2017 at 9:00 am

            Awe thank you! The friends thing really hurt me actually, I was so stunned by people #smh — we got ours for super cheap and they were great quality actually (In my wedding details post, I have a photo of their thickness) — I designed them myself on photoshop (I did our menu, and everything) and then ordered them on (we got like 80 invites for $40)! If you have a template or design, they are definitely the cheapest to get them printed, there interface isn’t great though, but they send you a “sample” of your actual design for free which most other sites will only send you a paper sample

          • Cameron
            March 10, 2017 at 10:17 am

            My fiance and I only have a super small group of friends, so we found it funny when people who thought they were our friends (but weren’t) would try and weasel their way on the guest list for free food. But it does hurt when someone you genuinely want to get back in touch with does that! So I’m sorry this happened to you! And I’ll def. have to check them out then! That sounds like a steal!

  • Silvia Marquez
    March 5, 2017 at 9:16 pm

    Your video came out so nice! You make great points about capturing moments and not just moving pictures.

  • Alex
    March 7, 2017 at 8:23 pm

    What a GORGEOUS wedding video! You are perfection!

  • Alexis
    March 8, 2017 at 8:16 am

    These are great tips. We couldn’t find a videographer that fit our budget. We are in the process of reaching out to college students who are going to school for videography/graphic design. I know I want our wedding documented but I just couldn’t justify the money. So here’s to keeping our fingers crossed.

    • Rachel Ritlop
      March 8, 2017 at 1:47 pm

      I love that idea! I totally felt like you actually and was going to have a friend do mine (he doesn’t normally do videography, he does nature documentaries and real estate videos) and it was going to cost a third of the price! But he couldn’t commit to me enough in advance that I just bit the bullet! If you’re going with a student, I would definitely give them some examples of what you envisioned and talk about what you had in mind!

  • Victoria Stacey
    March 14, 2017 at 9:17 pm

    Such beautiful videos and photos from your wedding!

  • Adriana
    March 22, 2017 at 3:18 pm

    Your wedding video is SO amazing!!! I definitely think having a video of the day is so important!

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