the confused mom rachel ritlop

learn + grow + relax

I'm simplifying how to choose the best products for yourself, kids, and home with suggestions based off our families first hand experience testing out baby and toddler toys, kids furniture, clothes and more.

I've worked with kids from birth to 10 years old for 20+ years, have my Master's in Education. I've seen all the trends and professional recommendations over the years and am bringing that keen eye and expertise to you.

The Confused Mom offers honest kids product reviews, activities for kids, montessori at home parenting tips, and simple hacks to make everyday motherhood easier and affordable!

THINK OF TCM AS YOUR COZY CORNER OF THE INTERNET. GRAB A CUP OF COFFEE, CURL UP ON THE COUCH, AND LET'S TALK ABOUT PREGNANCY, TOYS FROM LOVEVERY TO FINANCE TIPS + CREATING A HOME YOU LOVE!

Because, LBH… momming + adulting is confusing + overwhelming AF sometimes.

Whether we're trying to grocery shop on a budget for all the different food preferences of the fam, googling all the new responsibilities (“how do I stop overspending!?”), trying to self curate Lovevery subscription boxes, or just trying to decide on a dang montessori toy shelf the decision fatigue and exhaustion are real.

Let's simplify this whole #adulting + #momming thing together.

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fun facts

I creep on all the neighborhood kids + moms for their thoughts on the best toys and if I can test them out.

Human design: manifesting generator​ 

When I get stuck on a food, it's all I eat for weeks… currently inhaling cucumbers​

Astrology: cancer sun, scorpio rising, aquarius moon

I'm a mermaid. Haven't lived more than 3 miles from the beach in over a decade.

about Rachel

my story in a nutshell

I went to college, got my B.S. in Psychology – went to grad school, got my M.Ed + became a mental health counselor  – landed my dream job earning almost $10k more per year than colleagues that had been there for two years – only to feel totally miserable. Sounds messed up, right?

I fell into a full on quarter life crisis; completely lost when it came to my future. In fact, I was such a Debbie Downer that I got fired for being so miserable to work with. Always the Type-A overachiever, the day I got fired, I landed a new job… only get fired again three weeks later (more on that here!)

After that, I decided to go into business for myself and ended up becoming The Confused Millennial for 4 years… earning 6 figures, supporting my family, and living my dream at the time. But after having my daughter, the name no longer felt right… I knew I needed to become The Confused Mom.

I'd worked with kids since I was 13 years old from babysitting to nannying to ABA research assistant with children on the autism spectrum. I went to a Montessori school and worked with young adults struggling with addiction. I've had a unique background that exposed me professionally and personally to a lot of situations that made my transition into motherhood easier than most. I hope to share that perspective to make it easier for other confused mom's too!