3 Secrets to Believing in Yourself.

rachel ritlop the confused millennial

Believe in yourself.

It sounds so easy, but why is it so hard? I can't tell you how many times I've started and stopped a project in my life. How many times I've given up. How many times I've let rejection or others criticism define me.

As a blog and business coach I often get consultation requests in which I have prospective clients complete a questionnaire and almost unanimously, the clients talk about fear, uncertainty, or lack of clarity holding them back in their careers or businesses.

These emotions, these thoughts, are such universal barriers… how have we not come up with a better way to overcome them by now?

I know I was meant for something big in my life. I know that every unique experience I have been through, every struggle, and every hurdle have all been leading me towards something meaningful. Sometimes I feel like I am stuck in quicksand, just running in place without moving forward, other times I feel like I am soaring on a jet plane to my destination.

Why the lack of consistency? Why does our motivation have a half life?

How can we stay motivated and hold onto that accomplished and proud feeling?

1. Schedule everything on your calendar.

Not only is this a great way to stay organized with your to-do list, but it also can act as a “#Winning” Record, as it's hard tangible proof of all that you've accomplished. Whenever I start to feel like I am stuck or not getting anywhere, I look through my calendar and celebrate all the little victories on it.

2. Write or re-visit your life's mission statement.

Whenever I feel burnt out on a goal, I revisit my “why” as in why I decided to tackle this goal? Why is it important to me? How is this fueling my bigger picture? If you haven't written a mission statement for your life, do it! If you do have one, revisit it whenever you feel like burying your head under the covers.

3. Make the negative voice in your head shut up.

For many of us, when we get rejected or receive criticism it hits a much deeper emotional chord. Sometimes it can even lead to hours of obsessing and dissecting the interaction. When we focus our energy on these type of situations we usually do one of two things:

a) React negatively. We let it define us. We let it crumble us. We let it cause us stress, anxiety, or anger.

b) React positively. We use it as a learning lesson. We take an objective look at our role in the situation and adjust accordingly. Maybe we put too many expectations on someone? Maybe we made a mistake? Maybe we ignored our gut or warning signs about a situation? Either way, we find our role in the situation, take responsibility for it, and move forward.

When we can acknowledge our role, we can tell the negative voice in our head to pipe down, because it doesn't have power over us anymore.

How do you overcome a funk? How do you believe in yourself when you feel like giving up? Let me know in the comments!

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