6 Ways To Practice Self Care During Chaotic Times Of The Year

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This post is in partnership with Hancock Regional Hospital as part of their empowering women and children site. All thoughts, experiences, and opinions are my own. Be sure to check out their site for additional resources and support.

As much as I love the holidays, or back to school season, if I’m completely honest, they also bring pangs of anxiety. They always seem to creep up on me just a little too quickly. One minute its New Years, the next second it’s summer vacation, then back to school time, and then the end of the year holidays all over again. I cant help but think to myself, “didn’t I just make New Years resolutions, like...a week ago?

While I love the holidays and all the other milestones throughout the year – they always come with some added stress. It seems like family dynamics always get a little crazier, my perfectionistic tendencies rear their head just a little bit more, and there is never enough time to get all the things done. Which leaves me wondering:

How can practice self-care during the holidays or other chaotic times of the year?

Check In Mentally & Physically

Of course that means getting regular lab work and annual doctor visits. But this also means, doing a daily, or even hourly, scan of how your feeling physically, emotionally and mentally. Take particular note if your mood always drops after talking with a specific friend, or if you have anxiety around a specific task. On the flip side, don’t forget to do a scan of the positive things as well. Like if you feel a little extra warm and fuzzy after watching movies with your family. The more awareness you can bring to the things that both deplete you and fill you with joy, the more you can do these next steps effectively.

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Setting Boundaries With People

Since you’ve been doing regular mental and physical scans, what did you notice? Was it that you always felt a little more sour after a call with a certain family member? If so, now is the time to take action and set some boundaries.

As an introvert, being around large groups of people for long periods of time can feel like my worst nightmare. Two hours in, I’m planning my escape to watch TV alone and recharge my battery. Mix my often misunderstood introverted ways with tenuous family dynamics, it can be a recipe for disaster around the holidays or other family gatherings.

Personally, that lightbulb finally went off during the fourth or fifth holiday spent at my mother’s house that ended with me hysterically crying and ultimately leaving early. I need to repeat this: it took FIVE times before I finally set the boundary and decided to stop attending. It’s been three years since I’ve spent a holiday with my mother, even though she lives a half a mile down the road from me, and guess what? I enjoy the holidays a lot more.

This may look different for you depending on your situation, it may mean having a conversation, limiting the amount of time you spend with them, or re-arranging the seating chart to give you some buffer room between you and “button pusher.” I shared my extreme example of no longer going at all because it took me years to realize that was even an option. I want you to know that it’s perfectly okay to start your own traditions that include protecting yourself from unhealthy mental and emotional situations.

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Scheduling “Me” Time

I know it sounds a little crazy – you are probably already pressed for time as it is – but by scheduling specific time for your own self-care, you can actually increase your productivity levels and mood. Seriously, it’s like the oxygen mask on the airplane, you have to take care of yourself before you can take care of others. When you are living your best life, that’s when it’ll overflow and you’ll truly be the best version of yourself for those you care about. Instead of grinding yourself to a pulp during chaotic times, prioritize some self-care and notice if you’re fuse isn’t as short as it normally is.

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Letting go of the idea of perfectionism

With social media making it more and more prevalent to document every milestone throughout the year, it’s so easy to fall into the comparison trap. Instead of trying to get just the right back to school or holiday photo, focus on building traditions and being present. If the idea of a “perfect” photo begins to consume you or cause you even a little anxiety, challenge yourself to do an “imperfect” photo complete with bed head, no make up, and food stains on the clothes! You’re more likely to look back on that bleary eyed shot with more love and laughter than the perfectly staged photo that you were probably getting into a fight over five minutes before it was snapped.

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Stay Healthy

Resist the urge to put yourself in a food coma during gatherings. You will probably just regret it later and the sugar crash will probably just lead to increased feelings of irritability and exhaustion. Who’s got time for that?! Instead try to think of your body as a furnace that you are adding fuel to throughout the day. Focus on eating a well-balanced meal (get those veggies in first) and make sure to keep up with your regular exercise routine, even during chaotic times. Even 10 minutes of exercise can get endorphins going for some people! If nothing else, the very act of exercising for even just 10 minutes, will force your body to take deep full breaths, something most of us don’t do enough throughout the day, and can alleviate some anxiety.  And as always, make sure to get all those regular doctors visits in before the year is over!

Ask For Help

As a woman, I definitely have a tendency to feel the need to do it all, and I know I’m not alone. If we are all honest, I’m sure we’ve all told ourselves, “if I want something done right, then I just need to do it myself.” However, nothing is going to land either of us in burnout city faster than taking on that mentality. It’s true, you may have to go back and fix things to your liking, but start delegating asap! Ask friends or family to help take some of the responsibilities off your plate so you have more time to focus on all of the other things and taking care of yourself.

Remember, women’s health issues aren’t talked about nearly enough. And while the stigma of mental health is starting to subside, we need to keep the conversation going and lean on others in times of need. Check out Hancock Regional’s article on 5 women’s health issues that aren’t talk about enough, and know if you’re struggling with any of these that you aren’t alone.

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  • Sepideh
    November 17, 2017 at 10:05 am

    That quote…. man… I need to print that and put it all over my house.

    I think I struggle with putting myself first because I feel selfish. So I’m learning to talk it through with my hubby to make sure that I’m not being selfish and that I need to say no to something…

    It happened this week – I was supposed to go stay with my parents to spend time with them but I’ve been exhausted, sick, T.O.M…. and it was my dad and my hubby that suggested I just stay home instead and get some rest (and my mom came to spend time with me instead!) and it was a great way to realize that people around me are aware of my needs but I’m not and I push myself too much all the time!

    Great blogpost!

  • Grace
    November 17, 2017 at 10:49 am

    I always love your posts and this one was so great and filled with awesome tips for self care! Definitely will be using them this holiday season 🙂

  • Anna Hubbard
    November 17, 2017 at 11:03 am

    Yes to all of these! “Me time” is important all throughout the year, but especially during the chaotic periods!

  • Hannah @ AndThenWeTried
    November 17, 2017 at 11:55 am

    These are such important reminders. I’m lucky to have good relationships with my family, but there have definitely been rough patches where it would have been beneficial for me to keep these things in mind. Especially as we become “adults” and can make our own decisions about how to spend the holidays!

  • Michelle @ She's Not So Basic
    November 17, 2017 at 12:11 pm

    these are all great tips for getting through the chaotic times of the year. back in Florida, I had to do the same with with my dad on the holiday’s. tbh, now we don’t really even celebrate anything. like I didn’t even realize Thanksgiving is next week until I tried to book a flight for mon-wed next week and the prices were SO expensive and I was like ummm what is going?! and then I realized Thanksgiving is already next week! I swear it was just summer like yesterday haha

  • Amanda Schreiber
    November 17, 2017 at 1:42 pm

    I’m working on scheduling “me time” into my day. It’s hard when you are a workaholic! I always give myself excuses like “hey, you like your work- just keep working!”. Now I’m setting aside time for lunch each day away from my computer and phone to just relax and enjoy a book. It’s a whole new concept for me!

  • Lily Ayala
    November 17, 2017 at 1:46 pm

    I love this!! I struggled with perfectionism for a while — especially when it came to work. Thank you for sharing these important reminders.

  • Elizabeth Johnson
    November 17, 2017 at 3:28 pm

    Yes, yes, yes!!! I definitely put high expectations on the holidays and to let go of perfection helps so much. Love this post!

  • Kristen Jones
    November 17, 2017 at 3:49 pm

    LOVE this post girl. I totally need to make sure that my tendency to make everything “perfect” doesn’t get the best of me this year. I always want my home to be so pretty and perfect for when everyone comes over that it drives me crazy. We opted to do a more casual party this year, so I think that will help me SO much. Also, me time is never a bad thing! 🙂

  • Trish
    November 17, 2017 at 5:53 pm

    These are really wonderful tips, and I appreciate your focus on self care over the holidays. I find “me” time helps me so much. Just having an hour to sit down and read and be quiet is very rejuvenating. Exercise also always makes me feel much better!

  • Rachel at RKCSouthern blog
    November 17, 2017 at 5:57 pm

    Making ‘me time’ at least for a quick work-out most days of the week is the only thing that keeps me sane in the Fall/Winter when things are stressful and it gets so dark, so fast, outside!

  • My Urban Family
    November 17, 2017 at 8:31 pm

    These are great tips! I realized kind of in a panic this morning that I’m not going to have any me time until after Thanksgiving… I think I’m going to need to get better at saying no so I don’t have stretches this long again!

  • Nicole Booz
    November 18, 2017 at 1:54 am

    Such a thoughtful topic, Rach. Learning those boundaries may seem hard, but truthfully, it’s better for everyone involved when they are respected. I hope your holiday season has started off calm! xo

  • Mar
    November 18, 2017 at 8:04 am

    Self care is so important, and something I don’t do enough of. I think my biggest thing is learning how to ask for help.

  • Cait
    November 18, 2017 at 10:04 am

    I really needed to read this post today! As much as I love the holiday season, it can definitely be a stressful time of the year. It’s so important to take the time to care for ourselves, physically and mentally.

  • Allison Ellzey
    November 18, 2017 at 11:51 am

    Love this post! It’s so hard to try not to do everything perfectly! I really need to work on that!

  • Alix Maza
    November 18, 2017 at 2:07 pm

    Such a great post! I want to plan a self care day during the Thanksgiving holiday!

  • Erica @ Coming up Roses
    November 18, 2017 at 2:16 pm

    I literally JUST reached out to a potential therapist this past week. Self care is SO ESSENTIAL…and the holidays can definitely kickstart so many feelings/emotions to work through!

  • Lynn White
    November 19, 2017 at 12:41 am

    These are great tips. i really do need to learn to slow down this time of the year.

  • Marci Smith
    November 19, 2017 at 2:16 am

    I am SO big on scheduling yourself in. I even have “lunch date with me” on some of my planners!

  • Kaitlyn Fickle Killebrew
    November 19, 2017 at 11:33 am

    Setting boundaries with people is something I need to work on! Also getting over the idea of perfectionism!

  • Ashley Vickney
    November 19, 2017 at 9:30 pm

    I SO need to ask for help more often, and need to let go of my perfectionism!

  • McKennableu
    November 20, 2017 at 3:17 am

    Great tips! It’s so hard to stay healthy/eat healthy this time of year but so important.

  • Ania Ropel-Sewielska
    November 20, 2017 at 10:23 am

    That part about perfectionism is the most difficult. I seem to aim for perfection in everything I do and that costs me some stress sometimes, plus an enormous amount of time… I really need to work on that.

  • Cara Owens-Kindly Unspoken
    November 20, 2017 at 10:45 am

    These are great tips! Letting go of the idea of perfectionism is so important. I think that in itself causes so much stress. I’ve learned over the years to stop going overboard with things too.

  • Jasmine Maria
    November 20, 2017 at 12:08 pm

    Asking for help is always a must when I start to feel stress. Otherwise if I don’t then I won’t have a good time during the holidays.

  • Johanne
    November 20, 2017 at 12:49 pm

    Ooh, I totally think I should check in with myself more. Mentally, most of all. I need to take a couple of minutes every day and figure out how I feel and what I want to do about it. Great tips, me-timeis so necessary in easy, and definitely in chaotic times.

  • Nika
    November 20, 2017 at 1:55 pm

    Boundaries is a really important one, thanks for sharing

  • Mary Leigh
    November 20, 2017 at 3:31 pm

    All such good ideas! I think i also have to set boundaries for myself. I’m learning this some with blogging this season, too. It’s so important to have some down time and to be able to check in mentally and physically especially during what can be really hectic seasons!

  • Corey Wheeland
    November 20, 2017 at 3:32 pm

    Awesome tips for this time of year that can get SO stressful oh-so-quickly. I love the idea of setting boundaries and taking some “me” time!

  • Jenny
    November 20, 2017 at 4:34 pm

    Yes, yes and yes. Totally needed this post today. Me time is always necessary.

  • Holly Habeck
    November 20, 2017 at 4:59 pm

    These are all fabulous tips! I think the setting boundaries with people one is really important. We all have family that can push our limits mentally, and I love the idea of actually doing something about it to prevent it from going too far. The holidays are supposed to be fun! xx

  • Nichole
    November 20, 2017 at 8:30 pm

    I always make sure to make time for myself. I’m pretty independent so this is vital for me mentally. It sounds bad, but sometimes I just need away from other people or I tend to get really bad anxiety.

  • Sydney Power
    November 20, 2017 at 9:10 pm

    What a great reminder for all! I always have to remind myself to let go of my perfectionism, set boundaries, and not to forget about “me” time.

  • Adriana
    November 21, 2017 at 12:58 am

    These are such great tips! I have had such a hectic past two weeks, and as great as being busy is – I also really need to take some me-time. It’s so important!

  • Cameron
    November 21, 2017 at 1:07 am

    Love these tips! I’ve also had a CRAZY past few weeks, but I’ve set aside time for myself to make sure I’m not coming out the other end worn out!

  • Kristin Cook
    November 21, 2017 at 6:30 am

    Yes! I definitely have to be careful because I am constantly overbooking myself during the holidays and I either end up sick, frustrated, or just way too tired. Self care is important for keeping those negative things at bay. Happy Thanksgiving, Rachel!

  • Thena Reading-Franssen
    November 21, 2017 at 7:29 am

    Great post, so important to have “me” time. I try to find some time to do this daily, if not weekly.

  • McKennableu
    November 21, 2017 at 8:05 am

    Awesome post. Asking for help is key. Team work

  • Whitney H
    November 21, 2017 at 8:53 am

    This time of year is so busy, so these are awesome recommendations. I’m an extrovert but I definitely get moments where I just want to be by myself. I’m struggling with the idea of perfectionism but trying to overcome it. Thanks for this post!

  • Christina @ Hugs and Lattes
    November 21, 2017 at 11:00 am

    These are such good tips. I definitely need to schedule some me-time and get off Pinterest & Instagram because everyone’s house/decorations are so perfect!

  • Tiffany Khyla
    November 21, 2017 at 4:59 pm

    I love this so much. The holidays can be an overwhelming time in general, so making sure you take care of yourself is so important, and it’s honestly something that I often neglect. I am extroverted, so I have the opposite problem that you have. I spread myself too thin with my social calendar, and I forget to take care of myself and get enough rest.

  • [email protected] Confused Millennial
    November 30, 2017 at 5:04 pm

    Thank you for reading! I totally get trying to be someone for others, it’s not an easy struggle <3 Sending you lots of positive vibes this season!

  • [email protected] Confused Millennial
    November 30, 2017 at 5:07 pm

    HA!! I’m sorry you have one too! I wouldn’t wish it on anyone! #SMH

  • Katherine @ Slightly Savvy
    December 10, 2017 at 7:51 pm

    I love this so much. I always need your self care posts like imprinted on my brain. So, we talked about how we have the SAME popsocket and then, Tahoe ate my pop socket 🙁 So I bought another, identical one and he ate the 2nd one, too. I guess I’m just not meant to live out our California dreams via popsocket lol.

  • Jessi
    December 20, 2017 at 12:18 am

    WOW I love these tips! I absolutely need to schedule some me time, my fuse keeps shrinking I swear lol. It is so hard these days to allow yourself to slip with all the fabulous instagrammers making perfect meals in their pristine homes with the most stylish decor. I feel like I am always playing catch up. Letting go of being perfect might be my favorie tip 🙂 thanks again for the great advice!

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