13 Things To Do When You Don’t Want To Do Anything At All

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I don't want to do anything at all today. In fact, I feel like can't do anything and I certainly can't get myself to do anything. I don't want to adult. I don't want to leave my house. I have no desire to do anything.

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I've literally spent all day eating salty and sweet snacks while watching Awkward and wondering thinking, “I can't adult today… WTF am I doing with my life and wondering why can't I do anything?!?”

I have started and stopped writing like six different posts today. Finally, I just decided to say, “f@#* this sh*t” and decided to throw up an archive post. Only, when I started scrolling through the archives to this time last year, it turns out I was going through that exact same feelings.

 

fuck that

Why do I never want to do anything this time of year?

Honestly, I'm not positive. I was diagnosed with depression as a teenager. Spent nearly a decade in individual and group therapy and even studied psychology during undergrad and went on to earn my Master's Degree in Counseling. But this doesn't feel quite like when I was depressed.

When I was depressed, I didn't want to do anything or leave my house. I hated seeing people and even struggled to keep up with basic hygiene. I'm happy I went to therapy and got help during that time.

No, this feels more like burnout. Like I'm bored, but I don't want to do anything because I feel uninspired by life.

How to make yourself do something, even when you don't want to? (updated)

I know sometimes we have responsibilities we just can't avoid. I've found a few things that work for me: put some pressure on myself to get them done first. I'd suggest getting an accountability buddy, setting up a rewards system (when you do this, you'll get the reward).

The next part of how I force myself to do something is to do a deep dive into “why?” As in, why don't I want to do it? Is it something I really need to do or I'm being told I need to do? I learned about Human Design and it completely changed my life. I realized that so many of the things I didn't want to do, or the times I felt like this, were due to the fact that I was living outside of my design. You can listen to my podcast episode on this here.

Here are 13 things to do when you don't want to do anything at all:

These things are part sarcastic to make you laugh, part my internal dialogue, and partly to help you realize just how much you're doing and learning to celebrate that season. 

1. Question your entire existence on the planet.

… because I'm in my twenties and WTF else am I going to do in the middle of the day on a Tuesday?

2. Pace the room like a maniac during said questioning.

…maybe this counts as exercise?

3. Eat.

…Do the calories not count if I eat them while pacing?

eat

4. Stare at the ceiling

…this was way more entertaining when I was high in high school and had a popcorn ceiling.

5. Nap

nap

6. Binge watch TV or movies

… now that my eyes are rested from that nap, watch these movies for your quarter life crisis

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7. Ask yourself what would bring you joy in this moment

Okay, this one isn't sarcastic and it's actually super serious. Is there anything that seems enticing? If you can't think of anything, what is something that you used to enjoy? If you feel stuck, ask family or friends.

8. Look at chores and your to-do list

Maybe you'll get some motivation to get one of them done!

haha

HAHAHA “Quit playin' yo' self!” – DJ Khaled

Yeah, I'm just going to appreciate this mess and let it beeeee, because I can't adult today and IDGAF

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9. Contemplate what it feels like to be an actual adult.

… because honestly, I don't believe anyone ever feels like an adult. Like we are all just winging it right? RIGHT?!?! And I say this even after I've had a baby!

10. Think about working out

…Then decide not to, obvi.

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11. Think about going to the beach/pool

…but then think about skin cancer and wrinkles and all that fun stuff that comes with being outside midday for too long and decide doing nothing is still your best option.

12. Give yourself permission to do nothing.

I could tell you to “take a shower” or “choose one small thing to get done” or “brush your teeth” – but when I can't get myself to do anything, sometimes I just need to honor that. When you have no desire to do anything and you have the freedom to actually not do anything, why not just enjoy it? 

Jokes aside, I've found that when I give myself permission to do nothing for a few days, I end up bouncing back that much quicker and stronger.

13. Talk to a therapist, counselor, contact a helpline

I started going to therapy at 17 years old and spent nearly a decade in individual and/or group therapy. During undergrad I earned my Bachelor of Science in Psychology and I went on to earn my Master's Degree in Counseling. I even worked as a mental health and substance abuse counselor for a couple of years!

So I need to stress: if you are asking yourself, “why don't I care about anything anymore?” are struggling with not wanting to leave the house ever, and truly feel like you dont ever want to do anything anymore, it may time to seek help.

Here are some resources for help:

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline – 1-800-273-TALK (8255)

Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration Hotline (SAMHSA) – 1-877-SAMHSA7 (1-877-726-4727)

National Alliance On Mental Illness (NAMI) – 1-800-950-NAMI (6264) or info@nami.org

And then there is always 911.

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102 thoughts on “13 Things To Do When You Don’t Want To Do Anything At All”

  1. My favorite thing is taking naps with reruns of Friends or Golden Girls on in the background. It’s also necessary to pretend to be asleep when I’m awake so that I can walk the dogs on my own schedule and not theirs. 🙂 I could use some time away from work. Is it strange that I wish I had pink eye so that I could stay home?

  2. I’ve been having those days a lot lately — and I’m trying to give myself permission to do nothing. But it’s hard!!

  3. I think we all go through periods like this, no matter how old we are. Keeping that in mind, and knowing that “This too shall pass” really helps me pull myself out of it. Plus, binge watching my favorite shows, and eating lots of snacks, usually perks me up in no time!

  4. It’s so true! Sometimes you wake up (usually on a hectic work day) and just literally don’t want to be an adult and function. Pretty sure that has been my last week hahah This always happens after a vacation too!

  5. haha good to know I am not the only person who has these thoughts!! Number 9 also sums up most days for me! haha

  6. Yes. These are so on point. When I had my no good very bad day this week I didn’t want to do any the next day because I was so grumpy. I will need to print these. LOL

  7. You are hilarious and omg girl you have soooo much on your plate!! When i’m so stressed out, I tend to just have a huge ugly girl cry. Totally gross haha. When I need to be productive, I make coffee and it sort of snaps me into it.

  8. I am so guilty of thinking about working out each day then finding an excuse not to. Having days when I just cant adult are coming more often it seems, so I’ve really mastered my lay in bed with a bowl of popcorn routine

  9. Marissa Pedersen

    Something this is heathy though! I always feel like I need to be doing something, so it’s good to unwind and “do nothing.”

  10. I could relate to this post and also laughed. I admit that I sometimes watch the Bachelor because it makes me feel like I have my crap together haha. I think the biggest thing for me is giving myself permission to take a break- I extend this to my husband a lot on the weekends. Sometimes doing nothing is exactly what I need!

  11. Thank goodness for the ability to repost! I’ve felt like doing that more than once over the last few weeks! Great ideas to just chill!

  12. Awesome post. I’m good at doing nothing, but I need to work on releasing the guilt that comes along for the ride.

    Also, every time I have a bad week I google “is Mercury in retrograde?”

  13. This was me for an afternoon a few days ago! I bounced back and forth between binge-watching YouTube videos (I was on vacation not watching YouTube videos during lots of readathons so I had a lot of BookTube vids to get caught up on… so productive, right? ? ) and just hanging out. I did get some work done, but I think my dog started to get a little concerned because she started to “take care of me” that evening. But after an extremely productive, but also semi-stressful two weeks away from home and hustling ever since I got back, I think my brain just needed a break.

    Anyway, loved this and could totally relate!

  14. Sheila Jo Spencer

    I have managed to convince myself that going to the local coffee shop to read my book club assignment counts as productive time. 🙂
    They have tasty mochas and cookies, so I almost always feel like doing that…

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