10 Things to Do Alone At Least Once in Your 20s

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For years, I viewed being alone and loneliness interchangeably. They were one in the same to me; I hated being alone because inevitably I felt lonely. And, well, loneliness isn’t the greatest feeling. So, for years I surrounded myself with low quality friends for the sake of company and in fear of feeling isolated.

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When I moved to a new city without any acquaintances, significant others or roommates, I was, needless to say, overwhelmed by the feeling of loneliness.

As months passed, I began to realize that the feeling of being lonely had dissipated. Instead, I started to feel empowered. Without even realizing it was happening, I started to try new things on my own – things that were uncomfortable at times, but that forced me to experience being alone without feeling lonely. After all, I was my own best company.

So many people, myself often included, are so afraid of being alone; immediately tying it to loneliness rather than the opportunity to challenge yourself, to cultivate a relationship with yourself or to learn what makes you tick and makes you happy.

Whether you embark on an Eat, Pray, Love solo adventure a la Elizabeth Gilbert or simply go to a nice restaurant alone, there’s value in spending time alone and learning about yourself. So, take the time by yourself and soak up every minute – uncomfortable or not – with these nine things you should try at least once:

1. Travel

Traveling alone provides the luxury of choosing everything you do, eat and see – and when. When you’re exploring a new place alone, you can choose what is important for you to experience (and at what pace!)– rather than compromising with any travel partner. You’ll create invaluable memories, on top of building confidence and a sense of achievement by solving challenges and overcoming obstacles on your own (because, they will inevitably come up when you travel). Whether you travel abroad or just take a simple staycation in a different part of town, experience a new place with memories you can cherish to yourself.

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2. Dine Out

I used to freak out about this – what if waiters question why I’m alone? Will everyone stare at me? The reality of the matter is that no one cares and the discomfort is good for you! Bring a book or simply people watch! Enjoy a glass of wine and dessert without judgment and enjoy your own company.

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3. Hike

Similar to traveling alone, completing an awesome hike will make you feel like a badass! Enjoy the time to think and be at peace in nature. It’s rejuvenating. But, be smart and let someone know where you are going and when you expect to return to cell service!

4. Live Alone

I never thought living alone would be my thing, but now that I’ve done it, I’m never going back! It’s nice to come home after a long day of work and unwind by yourself in a space that you designed, decorated and feel safe in. There’s never any arguments about cleaning, food or who can be over when. Have I mentioned you can be pantsless all the time without judgment? Yep, #winning! Plus, it forces you to learn how to fix household things on your own!

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5. Go to a concert

Similar to my fears about going to a restaurant alone, I assumed that I would receive judgment and stares from people at a show if I was alone. Yet again, proven wrong. People are focused on the live music – and honestly may compliment you on your bravery! So dance the night away with your favorite band, rather than drag a friend who is less than interested in the band.

6. DIY Something – Anything!

Whether it’s a full table, a simple painting or a knitted blanket, seeing something that you made – completely on your own – is exciting. Plus, it fosters creativity and gets you prepared to solve difficult challenges (if you aren’t traditionally crafty, that is).

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7. Teach Yourself a New Dish

Flex your culinary muscles and learn how to make a fancy new dish that caters to only your taste buds! Plus, when you nail the dish, you’ll be able to impress friends with your culinary skills!

8. Have A Spa Day

A spa is typically a place to go alone, cleanse your body and mind and sit in silence. So, it’s definitely not weird to go alone and clear your mind. Show yourself that you’re your own best friend and treat it to some completely unplugged me-time.

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9. Make a Major Purchase

Save up for something major – a car, a house…even a new Macbook – and purchase it all on your own. You’ll feel responsible and incredibly independent! This teaches you how to save and the confirmation that you can be fine on your own.

10. People Watch

It’s easy to feel like everyone is watching you when you’re out alone, but once you take the time to people watch, you’ll notice just how focused most people are on themselves. Notice people’s expressions, imagine what their lives are like, and be present.

Doing things alone in your twenties can give you a sense of independence and self worth that are harder to come by when you’re always relying on other people. This is the time to date yourself and explore. Truly learn what you like and don’t like in order to make you the best version of yourself!

What are some of your favorite things to do alone?


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List of 25 things to do alone in your 20s:

1. Travel
2. Dine Out
3. Hike
4. Live Alone
5. Go to a concert
6. DIY Something
7. Teach Yourself To Cook
8. Have A Spa Day
9. Make a Major Purchase
10. People Watch
11. Paint, Draw, Write
12. Take A Bath
13. Nap
14. Volunteer
15. Plant A Garden
16. Watch Your Favorite Movie
17. Listen To Your Favorite Album
18. Go For A Run or Walk
19. Make Yourself Tea
20. Enjoy The Falling Rain
21. Meditate
22. Visit A Museum
23. Binge Watch A Show
24. Dance
25. Visit A New Place

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  • I live for spa days! And it’s been a while since I’ve made a new dish, but it’s always fun to try some new recipes out!

    • Emily Torres

      Spa days are the best!!

  • YES, to all of these! I’d like to add “Do Something That Scares You” — because once you’re out of your 20s it can just be plain irresponsible to go shark-cage-diving or sky diving if you have kids or other people relying on you! …but that doesn’t mean you should’t try something a LITTLE scary while you’re still young and ‘dumb’ enough to enjoy it without over-thinking it!

  • This post gives me anxiety just reading it! I do actually really like eating at restaurants by myself, and I like to hike alone as well. I might do that today actually!

    • Emily Torres

      Yay! Tell me how it goes!

  • Yes! I agree with all of this. I still feel like people will judge me if I’m alone. But some probably won’t even look at me. It just make me feel so self conscious. My favorite things to do alone is bake and DIY something!

    • Emily Torres

      Ooh! I plan on baking alone tonight! Love it!

  • I’ve always wanted to go to a bar by myself but have always been too afraid. I just want to take a good book, go to a local pub, have a drink, and read! I’ve dined out a lot of times (especially for lunch) and it feels so amazing. Going to the movies alone is also something I want to do 🙂

    • Emily Torres

      It’s really intimidating, but I like to go to casual bars. You end up making friends or reading – whichever works!

  • Emily Torres

    Totally agree! And it’s okay to be selfish with travel plans!

  • Emily Torres

    Balance is key!

  • I’ve always thought it is better to be alone than to be surrounded with people you don’t really like. My mom was 50 when my parents divorced. She found herself doing most of these things alone for the first time in her life. One of the MANY things I love about my daughter is she isn’t afraid to be alone.

    • I totally agree Beth! I was just talking to a friend about how I keep my friend circle small, I’m really okay with being alone, like you said it’s better than being with people I don’t particularly care for!

  • Yes to all these, and I love Rachel’s comment to also do something that scares you like…shark-cage-diving! So many of my favorite memories were when I went off and did something by myself – usually because it was something I really wanted to do, and so I just worked up the courage and logistics and did it. Things like backpacking (like backcountry hiking “well hello there bear!” backpacking), and traveling, and…actually…shark cage diving! I took the bus around Oahu by myself, showed up at the North Shore and went shark cage diving (well, with a guide, duh) and it was amazing. It took me a while to get used to eating alone, but reading a book is awesome for that, and now I rather enjoy having a meal out by myself with a book or my journal with me. Great post!

    • ahhh that is so awesome Liz!! How was the shark cage diving experience?!? — also I’ll be visiting Hawaii (maui and Kauai) soon, have you been? any tips?

  • Kaitlyn Fickle Killebrew

    Omg a spa day sounds amazing! I’m not usually one to be alone but this list sounds pretty great!

  • Allison Ellzey

    These are great! I’ve lived by myself and would highly recommend it!

  • I loooove to people watch! I know that sounds a little creepy, but I find what other people do interesting!

  • Anna Hubbard

    I’m naturally an introvert & honestly not a HUGE fan of people, so I love to do things on my own! These are all great ideas!

  • Adriana

    I love love love this! As I get older, the more and more I actually enjoy doing things alone! When I was younger, I was one of those 14-15 year olds who HAD to have her friends with her 24/7 in public, haha! I’m dying to do a solo-travel trip!

  • Love this! I can happily say I’ve done most of these haha, but should probably treat myself to a spa day soon!

  • Thena

    I’m no longer in my 20’s…. 🙁 but, I can still do these in my 30’s!

  • Elizabeth Johnson

    Love this! I lived by myself for about a year and it will teach you so much about yourself. When you live with others you don’t really focus on you. When no one else is in that space it is definitely eye opening!

  • thesophiadiaries

    these are totally wonderful tips! I would add ‘watch a movie on your own – in a theater!’ that one always gets me xD it always feels like an adrendaline rush even though you’re just going to sit down in a dark room for 2 hours…

  • Taylor Smith

    I didn’t do much alone as I got married at 22! But these look awesome for those who are in that space in your life!

  • I think I’ve done all of these things alone except hiking! I love taking solo trips to Disney World.

  • Deirdre B Jayko

    Love this post. Living alone in my 20s has been a transformative experience. Without having another person’s opinion to consider, it has forced me to learn so much about myself.

    Such a great list – thank you for sharing!

  • Trecee Hutchinson

    I agree with all of these! As I exit my twenties, I have been able to do all of these and I think its helped me to not be afraid of silence and alone time.

    Trecee

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