7 Things No One Tells You About Choosing a Wedding Venue

7 things no one tells you about choosing a wedding venue. What should you consider before signing with a wedding venue. How will choosing a wedding venue impact your wedding planning process - millennial blog

When it comes to choosing a wedding venue, people typically tell you to think about the basics, such as rates and capacity. But choosing a good wedding venue can really make or break your planning experience. The venue sets the tone for your entire wedding and should be a place that leaves you feeling totally confident about your big day. Everything and everyone come together and centers around the wedding venue, so keep these things in mind when choosing yours:

 

1.Ask your “must have” vendors first.

I chose my photographers from Pinterest before I chose anything else. I saw their photos and became totally obsessed with them. They are the sweetest husband-wife duo and every review I read swore up and down that you would want to be friends with them after your wedding and they would leave you feeling totally comfortable and at ease throughout the planning process and on the big day, which couldn’t have been more spot on. I knew I had to have them as my photographers without a doubt. We planned on having a destination wedding since 80% of our guests would be flying in from out of town if we did it local to where we live, and there was no way I was having a wedding in NY (unless it was at this super cool hippie-dippie place in the Catskills). So I turned to my must have vendor I asked them for suggestions. They gave me a list of places they enjoyed working with in the past so I set meetings up from there. The thing is, if you get a good vibe from your vendor, chances are they are only going to recommend venues that are easy to work with – which in turn not only makes your life easier but theirs too. At the end of the day, having a team of vendors who has worked well together in the past makes the day run a lot smoother if anything comes up.

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2. Think in terms of ease & practicality for your guests and for you.

Granted it is your wedding day, so asking people to go to your church or temple then drive an hour to a reception is fairly common and people will obviously do it; but will this give you more stress? It’s definitely going to take away from your guests experience. How will the guests get from the multiple locations? Will it cost your more money? Are the added variables of what could go wrong (for example if your wedding is in the winter, will a long drive between venues potential lead to travel hazards?). There really is no right or wrong answer to this, it depends on time of year, weather, costs, size of the wedding, and so on. Just something to consider.

We opted to do everything in one place since it was a destination wedding, we wanted people to feel like they were on vacation and we did not want to worry about coordinating additional details.

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3. Get clear on your vision before the wedding venue visits.

Go H.A.M. on Pinterest. Seriously, get on it ASAP. This is my personal Pinterest page, and you can see I have a board for everything (which made planning SO easy, because for the florist I just gave her my board, I had a “wedding bites” board for the chef, a “wedding love” board for all the decor and details for the planners, and so on). When it came time to actually visit wedding venues I knew what I was trying to envision. Our florist pointed out that I had re-pinned the same bouquet multiple times without realizing it, which in turn, became my bouquet the day of. I also knew that I wanted everything to be at one location, but I did not want a wedding at a hotel with a million of the hotel patrons watching from their balconies, so finding a hotel/resort that could offer some privacy was a big deal. Think about what you do and do not want on your big day.

 

4. Check reviews on multiple platforms.

Check WeddingWire, The Knot, Facebook, Instagram, Google Reviews, AND Yelp! I know this may sound excessive, but ICYMI people buy reviews! Seriously, it’s a thing. Chances are they are not buying reviews on ALL of the above platforms though. So make sure you get as clear of a picture as possible. Also, don’t be afraid to skip over friends recommendations. They may have different tastes or budgets than you, so do you own due diligence. Do this before visiting the wedding venues too, because it will give you more knowledge on questions to ask or warning signs to be wary of.

 

5. Keep your eyes open for red flags during the initial visit.

I can not stress this enough. The first wedding venue we officially visited left us feeling totally frustrated and depleted about making our vision come to life. We kept asking questions about customizing the locations of the ceremony, cocktail, and reception and kept being met with some variation of ‘no.’ Every question was met with: “well we can only do that if you have 180 guests or more or you are willing to pay as if you have 180 guests” or “well we could do that but we won’t be able to guarantee it until a week before the big day if no one else uses that space” or simply, “we can’t do that.”  During your initial visit you should be asking tough and specific questions, and if you don’t feel like you are in the honeymoon phase of it all, then get out.

Also – as a side note, if you are doing a hotel/resort wedding (or even just getting a block of rooms somewhere but doing your wedding somewhere else), I highly recommend actually staying at the location and seeing all the rooms your guests may experience prior to booking.

Some back story: Our first night staying at venue option 1 the water was out in our hotel room. Our room was gorgeous, newly upgraded, so I didn’t want to switch rooms, but I hadn’t showered since 8 am that morning and spent the whole day traveling and doing site visits. I wanted to shower at 9 pm. I was cranky. When we kept calling the front desk they couldn’t tell us when the water would be back on, if at all that night. They kept sending us on a wild goose chasing from person to person with long waits. I asked if I could shower at the spa or a vacant room and come back to my room and they said no. I was livid. They said they would call when the water came back on, which they never did. Eventually an hour or so later I heard water running in another room so I checked ours for the hundredth time and saw I could shower. The corporate offices made everything right with us in the end, but I was way too nervous about our guests experience from there.

Also sometimes resorts or hotels are undergoing renovations in sections. They may show you the nicest rooms, but remember to ask if all the rooms look like this and if they don’t ask to see those too. If there are different grades of rooms you can try to negotiate the nicer rooms into your block only, or simply choose somewhere else.

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6. Ask about renovations.

During your planning visit, ask if the venue has any scheduled renovations or large projects planned during the time of year you are considering. The last thing you want is for that gorgeous view you fell in love with to be obstructed; or not have access to the spa if you planned on spending some time in the saunas or steams de-stressing before the craziness (or after).

However, keep in mind, that just because none are planned at that time, it doesn’t mean renovations will not come up…

This was actually a question I had asked during the initial visit and was told nothing was planned. We signed the contracts and then the new year came, with the new plans from corporate about the hotel. We received a call towards the end of January 2016 stating that corporate decided to renovate our reception location starting two weeks before our wedding day #crushed.

Like I said, choose a wedding venue you feel confident in. The staff was great and offered us two options: 1) change our wedding date, they even contacted our vendors for us to help put a few new dates on hold or 2) change the reception location.

If you caught this post on how my wedding was different than I imagined, you know that I had a lot of anxiety about an all outdoor wedding; so we didn’t have one originally planned. Instead, we had this beautiful wood-paneled restaurant with panoramic ocean views. Very rustic. Very safe from mother Earth’s elements. Since it was a restaurant, it meant we would be having a brunch wedding so the restaurant could open as planned that night, I purchased a “daytime” wedding dress (the first of seven I ended up purchasing – more on that in another post). I hate ballrooms. No offense if you have a wedding in a ballroom, but something about ballroom carpet in pictures just drives me crazy. So when they talked about switching the location I felt at a total loss since I didn’t want a ballroom and the only other option was outside. I knew we couldn’t move the date, and I knew that to really have the rustic natural elements I wanted to incorporate on our wedding day, we would need to have a wedding outside. The staff was phenomenal at helping us bring everything together while sticking to our original budget.

7. Check the venue’s vendor policies.

You see, one of the worst things is to fall in love with a wedding venue, who only allows you to work with a small list of approved vendors. Do not assume that because the  wedding venue is great their list of vendors is great. This can be a total headache if this list is out of date or not your style. Sometimes venue’s will charge you an additional fee if you stray from the list, some wedding venues won’t let you stray from the list at all. Spend the time looking through the vendors and meeting with them before signing on with the venue.  Chances are you are paying the venue a rental or usage fee of some sort, make sure you comb through the fine print for any additional hidden fees.


Lastly, don’t forget your standard questions for a wedding venue: availability (if you have a specific date or time of year); rates, capacity, restrictions, transportation/parking, caterer (in-house or outside – if outside what is the re-heating situation like), hidden fees/extras (security, additional hours, set up and breakdown fees, music has to stop at a certain time, etc).

 


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  • I don’t have to face this struggle, yet and to be honest I hope I won’t have to any time soon. But my best friend is facing a lot of challenges for planning her wedding. I’m sure she’ll love these pieces of advice!

    Cristina | *janded

    • I hope her planning goes a lot smoother soon! what are some of the challenges she is having?

      • Mostly about the venue and guest lists.

  • Chrissa – Physical Kitchness

    Great tips! When I got married in my small-ish hometown, there were only two wedding venues to pick from. Which is a blessing and a curse!! I love ‘go HAM on Pinterest” LOL!!!!

    • Haha that’s so nice though! I always wished I loved in a super small town haha

  • Sarah Jean

    I knew where my venue would be 10 years before I even met my husband. haha BUt you are so correct in all these points, which I still had to think about, like ease of guests getting there!

    • That’s amazing! where was it and what type of venue was it?

  • Marie Morgan

    I am not getting married anytime soon but like every other woman I have dreamed about it. I wouldn’t know the first thing to planning a venue but thanks to this post I now have another tool to create my dream!

  • Anna Hubbard

    Rachel, this is an amazing post! I love how you outlined every consideration: what works well with vendors, privacy, and the quality of the rooms you book for your guests. I will definitely be pinning this to my wedding board!
    -Anna | http://www.fivefootandfabulous.com

    • Awe thank you Anna! So happy it was helpful! If you ever have any questions don’t hesitate to ask!

  • Loved this Rachel! My venue was basically all inclusive so it was awesome!

  • Mommy Blogs It

    Great tips! I never even thought about the renovation question – what a good idea – could totally ruin your day!

  • I never would have thought about the renovations! Good call!
    Your photos, your decors- everything- looks amazing! Such a gorgeous wedding!

    • Awe thank girl <3 yeah it could totally take away from the experience!

  • mckenna bleu

    These are great things to keep in mind when picking out and thinking of a venue!

  • These are great! As a wedding planner, I would add this: be really clear on what your venue requires from your vendors. A couple of venues I have worked with have asked for some weird things (reference letters, extra insurance coverage, even a security deposit) and if those things cost me money, I pass that cost on to my couples. Be aware of what they are going to ask for so you can relay this to your other vendors before signing contracts.

  • Greta Hollar

    Girl where were you when I got married? I so could have used these tips!

    Greta | http://www.gretahollar.com

    • Haha thank you Greta! haha What type of venue did you have?

  • Sam Crawley

    I love this! Will definitely have to keep in mind when I get married.
    -Sam | http://www.lolaandlilacs.com

  • Kaitlyn Fickle Killebrew

    This post is awesome for the engaged! I wish I had read an article like this when I was planning my weddinf

  • I am so bookmarking this for one day when I tie the knot! Very helpful!

  • Allie Blaising

    Absolutely stunning wedding Rachel! <3 Love this! – http://www.allison-blaising.com/

  • I can’t imagine how consuming and stressful wedding planning is. I have a hard time planning what to wear each day! Great information!

    • Haha well that’s because you always have the best outfits and probably change multiple times a day! Wedding planning will be a breeze for you after putting together the stuff you do for the blog!

  • Casey Oakley Bennevault

    So much great info here! I wish Pinterest had been around when I was planning my wedding – I feel like it takes wedding planning to a whole new level and makes it so much easier to have a clear, tangible vision of what you want!

    • It really does! My planner and team said that weirdly more brides don’t use it like I did!

  • Yes yes yes yes aaaaaand yes! Our photographer loved shooting our reception visually, but HATED the guy that runs it and they had so much tension…super awk. Those relationships matter and affect your own planning process (and sanity…).

    Coming Up Roses

    • Yes! one of my friends was telling me how she felt shamed by her photographer and planner and venue and all the dynamics were making my head spin for her! Nobody got time for that #byefelicia!

  • Taylor Smith

    My venue was a beautiful penthouse room with rustic brick walls and panoramic windows overlooking the city. It was very “me”. We visited many times to make sure everything went according to plan!!!!

  • This is beyond smart. The lady who ran my venue was less than organized so I had to stay on top of her. Great tips!

    • Thanks Tilley! I can only imagine what that was like!

  • Working in bridal I heard so many wedding venue horror stories. I can’t imagine how stressful any vendor issues would be for a couple. Not being able to shower would be pretty irritating to me haha!

    • Haha right! Every venue we visited after that I asked how they would handle the situation and based a lot around that too. Nobody wants their guests to have a bad experience!

  • Kelsie Kleinmeyer

    Your pictures are so stinkin’ gorgeous. I agree with all of these! We ended up having our ceremony and reception at the same place and it made things SO much easier- especially because it rained.

    • Awe thanks girl! Oh rain is lucky!! haha it rained in the morning on our day!

  • Elly Leavitt

    such beautiful pics! I feel like every single one of your blogposts are/are going to be so so useful in the future haha I am def using you as a resource for all things wedding related

    • Haha thank you! yeah I debated doing this series since my readers are half married and half single and only a few engaged, but I was like F it! People can always come back around! haha

  • Sydney Power

    These are all very important tips! Where did you get married? it looks lovely

    • Thank you! The Ritz Carlton in Amelia Island! It was the best experience ever with them.

  • This is an awesome checklist! Some of these things I’ve never thought about and now you have me wondering. Great post!

  • These are really good to know for the future! I can’t wait to have my own wedding haha 🙂 These photos are stunning by the way!

    http://www.diaryofatorontogirl.com

  • Yes, yes yes!!! The first thing we did in the planning process was scheduling our venue, and although I’m still happy with our choice, the venue doesn’t really totally fit my vision for our wedding. Our wedding is very boho-styled and wanderlust theme, and my venue is a popular sports bar banquet hall. I think we needed to have it there because our wedding is going to be large and it’s one of the only local vendors that hold over 300 people, but it doesn’t really fit our theme that much, so I’m going to have to decorate and make it MY vision!!

    • I can’t WAIT to see you wedding! It’s going to be so beautiful! ours was very boho-whimsical. I think when you have that many guests it’s always a little different, we only wanted like 50 people which made planning a lot easier IMO

  • This is such an awesome. I cant wait get married one day!!

    • Thanks Bella! You are going to make a beautiful bride!

  • Adriana

    Practicality is huge!!! Such a good tip. This whole post is great – I love your wedding pictures! You looked stunning!!!

  • Michelle Champalanne

    These are great tips! So many I would have never even thought about! I’m glad it all worked out in the end!

  • This is seriously so helpful! So many things I wouldn’t have thought of.

  • Miss ALK

    All such important tips- I’ll definitely keep these in mind someday. And your photos are beautiful!!

    xoxo A
    http://www.southernbelleintraining.com

  • Your pictures are gorgeous! Congrats again! I’ll be saving these tips 🙂

  • There are so many great tips in this post! I would love to have a gorgeous wedding like this! The photos are stunning. Definitely pinning your post for future reference 😉

    Kayla | kaylablogs.com

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